Parents - children relationships are complicated at any age. Whether in young kids(phr.- a young age), or especially in their adolescence, there are always struggles because of the unavoidable generation gap. A lot of researches have been done in order to explain what the reasons for the complicated relationships are, and if there are solutions for them.
I think that most of the struggles happen in the stage of adolescence, and are connected to the teens' desire for independence. At this age, teens' discovery of what life has to offer peaks, and precisely at this age two parents come and try to limit them. It leads to difficult disagreements between two adults who can't understand that their little babies aren't babies anymore, and angry, impatient teens, who want to do what they want the second they want it.
My relationship with my parents has known ups and downs. Until I was six years old I was the only child. In such a status I got almost everything I wanted. When my adolescence started, the relationship has become worse. Perhaps it was me who became intolerable, perhaps it was my parents' fault, but we couldn't stop fighting about every little thing. As time passed I've learnt what I can(gr.-could) say and what not. I think that they (have) also learnt it and they are still in a process of understanding my needs as a young adult coming into being. Our relationship is still not perfect, but I know and I've always known, that I have two parents, who I can rely on.
So struggles or not, at the end of the day, parents and teens are one family. So, we can sit and waste our time looking for solutions while the truth is that these relationships are so problematic, that they don't really have ones(phr. - not clear what you mean). Instead, all the(ww.-the whole) family can be united around the understanding that this is a temporary period. And until its end, all is needed(phr.) is one thing - patience.
Better.
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Daphna
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